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Yaling Jiang is a writer and researcher helping people understand China through real individuals, rather than through headlines or stereotypes. Yaling is a former journalist and translator and founder of the popular newsletter Following the Yuan. She is also the founder of the research and strategy consultancy ApertureChina. Today, Yaling joins us to talk about what it really means to explain China to the outside world—and why seeing Chinese people as individuals matters. We talk about what it’s like to have your country, your culture, and your own identity be misunderstood. We also talk about the growing desire among Chinese women to have more control over the lives they choose to live. We talk about dating, marriage, motherhood, gender expectations and the fear of becoming “leftover”. We explore how younger generations are challenging traditional norms and whether China’s changing social attitudes are pointing toward a more equal future. We also talk about the loneliness of a world that feels increasingly divided, and Yaling’s hope that we can learn to see each other as individuals rather than stereotypes. It’s a conversation about identity, agency, belonging—and the fragile hope that we might find our way back to each other.

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Yaling’s mission: human stories about China

Growing up in a globalized China

Gender, ambition, and what Chinese women want

Dating in Shanghai and the numbers problem

“Leftover women” and changing expectations

Are gender norms actually changing?

Marriage, birth rates, and who carries the cost

Egg freezing as a safety net

Dating across cultures

History, race, and the “inferiority complex”

Asian representation in Western film and TV

Race and identity from China to the UK

Being called “banana”

Assimilation and the trauma of belonging

Empathy as the takeaway

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红娘给出的上海合格单身男女比例约为 1 比 6，嘉宾用职住分布解释了这一失衡如何形成。

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嘉宾讲述自己冻卵只取到 11 颗卵、报告显示活产率仅 7% 到 8% 的一手经历。

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主播回忆中学时拒绝加入亚裔社团后被骂“banana”，第一次意识到自己属于某个“部落”。

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一位江苏女孩讲她如何在英国被问“你是不是党员”、在伦敦被问“中国人还吃狗肉吗”，以及她为什么选择理解而不是愤怒。她拆解上海婚恋市场的地理失衡，给出红娘口中 1 比 6 的男女比例，还讲了自己冻卵只取到 11 颗、活产率仅 7% 到 8% 的真实经历。后段主播讲中学时被亚裔同学骂“banana”的往事，两人聊到在西方进房间会下意识数有几个亚洲人。

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Yaling Jiang 出生于江苏三线城市，现居伦敦，从事品牌与金融机构的研究与策略工作，同时写通讯 Following the Yuan、办平台 People's Square Shanghai，试图在中西方之间弥合信息差。她与两位主播从“如何念中文名”聊起，谈到英国同学问她是不是党员、有人问她中国人是否吃狗肉，进而讨论上海婚恋市场的地理与人口学失衡、三十岁“剩女”标签、单身女性冻卵的法律限制与个人经历、约会软件上的主动权变化，以及亚裔男性与女性在西方被感知方式的差异。节目后段，主播讲述自己中学时被亚裔同学骂“banana”的经历，双方由此讨论身份认同、白人滤镜与共情。

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