青年共居是一种居住方式，从十几人到百来号人住在同一栋楼里，有定期的社群活动，帮你在陌生城市里拥有亲密的“邻里关系”。本期嘉宾Ben Smith就是一个纽约的共居社群goalhouse的创始者，也是一个视频博主，一个被两个爸爸从中国收养的男孩。

This time we have Ben Smith, the founder of a communal house in Brooklyn called goalhouse (https://www.goalhousenyc.com/). It’s also where I lived for 6 months and appreciated it deeply. We talked about how to start a communal house and what the challenges are in running it. Ben called himself a community builder and recognized the house as a business project but also more of a lifestyle project. He also shared why he became a Youtuber and what’s his mission behind.

Goalhouse: https://www.goalhousenyc.com/
Ben’s youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuhYY6pRn2V-z4lqsiXipMA
His vlog on his dad’s gay wedding: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RpFy-E0h4_o&t=30s&ab_channel=BecomingBenSmith

4:10 inspired by European hostels: physical space is the catalyst of bringing people together
7:26 start of the coliving career: target, attack!
11:13 first iteration of goalhouse: talk about weekly goals with housemates on the dinner table.
15:44 real "goal" of goalhouse: being present in the community.
18:59 the essence is to move in with good intentionality then serendipity will make things happen
20:46 when social anxiety meets coliving: am I ready for this?
24:18 the proudest thing is people make friends here, even if it’s not life long.
27:15 coliving in the covid time: risk and responsibility on an individual level
29:24  the official introduction to Goalhouse @ NYC, plus the famous sunday dinner
31:56  the business side: a building managing company rather than a start-up
33:28  what’s the optimal size of coliving house? And the story of taking up this building.
36:31  I’m your friend but I also manage your house.
39:15  the goal house way approaching the famous dishing problem; what is different from college dormitory.
43:43  It’s not a business to be scaled up. It’s my lifestyle.
45:43  beginner’s guide to start a coliving without big initial investment
49:38  when is the best time to start recruiting residents
51:23  why would people trust you to move in? 
53:30  the psychological mechanism for patiently resolving roommate disputes, with another dish example.
1:01:14  longer-term communal living?
1:03:22  becoming a YouTuber for another kind of connection
1:08:48 people who commented hate speeches may be the people to be changed; good and bad lives in balance.
1:14:59 high school story: using a learner mindset towards hatred
1:22:56 why is it so hard to make Ben angry? The upbringing story.
1:27:08 best YouTubers are the most authentic ones.
1:31:27 Goal of 2021

intro music: Midnight by Ikson
outro music: Run by Oakstudio
cover pic: ihor malytskyi from unsplash